{"id":291,"date":"2016-10-11T23:47:34","date_gmt":"2016-10-11T23:47:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kiddyzone.co.uk\/news\/?p=291"},"modified":"2016-09-19T23:48:49","modified_gmt":"2016-09-19T23:48:49","slug":"should-i-shout","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kiddyzone.co.uk\/news\/2016\/10\/should-i-shout\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I shout?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Shouting does not make a someone a terrible parent.\u00a0 I bet that most people shout because they are GOOD parents.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see good parents try.\u00a0They want to do better. They have expectations for\u00a0their children.\u00a0 They get frustrated when their children don\u2019t live up to those expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n

They are worn down because they work all day to take care of their families.\u00a0 They try hard to make sure that their children have everything that they need.<\/span><\/p>\n

They feel bad that they can\u2019t do enough, or that they just aren\u2019t enough for their children.<\/span><\/p>\n

So it\u2019s not surprising that we lose it every once in a while.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bad parents don\u2019t feel those things.\u00a0 Bad parents don\u2019t try.\u00a0 Bad parents don\u2019t feel the guilt.\u00a0 They don\u2019t get run down trying to do it all.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because we are good parents, we work so hard and feel so much guilt and frustration that we get\u00a0overwhelmed frustrated and angry.<\/span><\/p>\n

Good parents feel so many emotions, including anger, and bad parents don\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

I Am Permanently Damaging My Children?<\/span><\/p>\n

FALSE<\/span><\/p>\n

Oh the guilt of shouting can be so heavy.<\/span><\/p>\n

We know it\u2019s not good for our kids, and there are articles after articles online telling us so.<\/span><\/p>\n

But let me tell you, shouting may not be permanently damaging to children.<\/span><\/p>\n

In every healthy relationship there\u2019s a balance between positive moments and negative moments.\u00a0 There have been studies and they show that for every negative moment, we need five positive interactions to keep the relationship healthy and in balance. These studies were done with couples, but have been applied to the parent\/child relationship as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Positive interactions can be small, a smile, a touch, small gestures.\u00a0 I bet you do a lot of those small gestures with your children throughout the day.<\/span><\/p>\n

We are all going to get angry and do things that we aren\u2019t so proud of, it\u2019s how we make up for those things that count.<\/span><\/p>\n

The trick is to keep things in balance.\u00a0 If you feel like you need help with this, check out myth #5 below.<\/span><\/p>\n